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Simple Skills for the Sweet Life


"It is through language – the commitments we make in speaking, 

that we actually shape and create a common future, 

a network of trust, and hence of truth"

Fernando Flores 




Why This Matters

  • Conversation is our medium of coordinating action, collaborating and creating relationship.
Is there anything we do in the absence of conversation?

  • Language (verbal and non-verbal) is generative. 
What do we generate? Emotions, trust or distrust, quality of subsequent actions.
Loyalty, creativity, willingness, curiosity, energy or the opposite - shutdown.

Can we reverse cultures or relationships of divisive emotions, states of being, and behaving?
Yes. Relationships can often be repaired. 
Trust can be built or rebuilt in relationships and organizations, through specific skills that
cultivate Emotional Agility and Intelligence, Language Awareness and Centered Presence.

This applies to our relationship with ourselves, how we feel and function

Learn more in a brief article   See elements of a workshop    

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A Primer on Requests and Demands 
The difference you can make

What's the difference between a request, a demand and an expectation? 
How does it affect the quality of each day, the outcome of a plan, relationships?

  • Request  "No" is an acceptable response. 
Prepare yourself for the grace and the possible disappointment in a request. 

  • Demand  "No" is not an acceptable response. 
Are you disguising a demand as a request? Is your boss or partner doing this?

("Would you brush you teeth?") 
Is "no" an option when you remind your child of a responsibility?

(Would you take on this project?) Is "no" an option? 
Are you asking or telling your employee?     

Can you see how this creates confusion, tension, vagueness of responsibility?  
Resentment? 

How is your language or desire to be "nice" setting you up for distrust, inefficiency 
and tenuous relationships?  

  • Expectation  You expect one thing and get something else. Uhoh.
Where or on whom does your disappointment or "blame" land? 

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